I realized the main three niches of my blog are food, lifestyle and family and I haven’t touched on family in awhile. So I wanted to talk about something that a lot of parents may be feeling – I know I certainly was.
Parent Guilt for adding an additional sibling into the family (Especially when you’ve got an only child). When I first found out I was pregnant I was elated.. So excited to be bringing another wonderful soul into this world who would hopefully carry my values, my love for God and my humor 😉 But then I began to feel a deep pain for my Hudson. He’s got other siblings on his Dad’s side but they’re part time and he’s got his Mommy 100% of the time. It’s been Mommy and Hudson for 3 whole years and it’s been amazing..
But now it won’t be.. And in our situation it’ll be TWICE the sharing now that we found out we’re having twins. I spent many a nights crying myself to sleep.. It hurts to say but I was no longer excited for my babies anymore, because I felt like I was completely betraying my little boy.
But after speaking with other parents who had multiple children it always came down to the same answer.. Your heart finds a way. All of the anxiety and pain goes away as soon as you meet your babies and you realize you have way more room in your heart than you thought was humanly possible and when your little sees their new lifelong best friend(s) they don’t see it as a competition for your love (Well maybe a little, but not to the extreme you imagined 😉 ) but instead they see an exciting new chapter with new loved ones.
That has completely eased my mind. Hudson is so in love with my belly and talks about his little brothers often as if he can’t wait to meet them.. And because of the advice and my son’s adoration it’s completely cured my Mommy Guilt. So don’t worry Mommy, or Daddy.. It’ll be okay, you’re capable of tremendous amounts of love and the only thing you can do is continue to tell your little how much you love them and always will.
I’m supposed to be on light bed rest but instead I’ve been taking Hudson out and spending as much time with him as I can so he knows that even though Mommy is exhausted with these babies that he’s still important to me and always will be.
Parenting is the most rewarding and scary job in the world – But I wouldn’t trade it in for the world. So let go of your guilt.. You’re killing it!