Mama Guilt When Pregnant

I realized the main three niches of my blog are food, lifestyle and family and I haven’t touched on family in awhile. So I wanted to talk about something that a lot of parents may be feeling – I know I certainly was.

Parent Guilt for adding an additional sibling into the family (Especially when you’ve got an only child). When I first found out I was pregnant I was elated.. So excited to be bringing another wonderful soul into this world who would hopefully carry my values, my love for God and my humor 😉 But then I began to feel a deep pain for my Hudson. He’s got other siblings on his Dad’s side but they’re part time and he’s got his Mommy 100% of the time. It’s been Mommy and Hudson for 3 whole years and it’s been amazing..

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But now it won’t be.. And in our situation it’ll be TWICE the sharing now that we found out we’re having twins. I spent many a nights crying myself to sleep.. It hurts to say but I was no longer excited for my babies anymore, because I felt like I was completely betraying my little boy.

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But after speaking with other parents who had multiple children it always came down to the same answer.. Your heart finds a way. All of the anxiety and pain goes away as soon as you meet your babies and you realize you have way more room in your heart than you thought was humanly possible and when your little sees their new lifelong best friend(s) they don’t see it as a competition for your love (Well maybe a little, but not to the extreme you imagined 😉 ) but instead they see an exciting new chapter with new loved ones.

That has completely eased my mind. Hudson is so in love with my belly and talks about his little brothers often as if he can’t wait to meet them.. And because of the advice and my son’s adoration it’s completely cured my Mommy Guilt. So don’t worry Mommy, or Daddy.. It’ll be okay, you’re capable of tremendous amounts of love and the only thing you can do is continue to tell your little how much you love them and always will.

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I’m supposed to be on light bed rest but instead I’ve been taking Hudson out and spending as much time with him as I can so he knows that even though Mommy is exhausted with these babies that he’s still important to me and always will be.

Parenting is the most rewarding and scary job in the world – But I wouldn’t trade it in for the world. So let go of your guilt.. You’re killing it!

Your Space, Your Time

You learn a lot of things when you become a Wife and a Mother. One thing I’ve learned is how important it is for everyone to have their own time. Finding it hard to catch up on cleaning? Too tired to cook? Yup, we all do at times. But one thing I’ve finally realized is IT’S OKAY.

If I don’t feel like I’ve got the energy or have the patience I make sure I get 2 things done: I take care of my child then I clean my room. Why my room? It’s my space. And it’s one thing done that I’ll really appreciate. It’s decorated the way I want, I’ve got my Google Home in there to listen to relaxation music, I’ve got my Essential Oil Diffuser and I can close the door.. :p

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So once my son goes down for a nap that is MY time. Sometimes I don’t need it, but when I do and don’t want to do anything else while he’s asleep – I clean my room, make my bed and just relax in here. I’m actually doing it RIGHT now and it’s amazing.

Some people don’t take enough time to recenter themselves and empty their minds. Which ends up leaving people feeling overwhelmed and pissy. How do I know? That was me too. Sometimes it can make my family resentful that I need this time but in reality I’m helping them out, hahaha!

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So don’t feel guilty about having you time, just do it! And make sure you do it in a space that feels like yours ❥